
		{"id":1740,"date":"2021-08-25T08:32:36","date_gmt":"2021-08-24T22:32:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.wellbeing.com.au\/curious\/?p=1740"},"modified":"2021-08-23T11:45:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-23T01:45:22","slug":"party-games-the-big-night-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wellbeing.com.au\/curious\/party-games-the-big-night-in","title":{"rendered":"The best party games for your big night in"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What do you get when you cross nostalgia-loving millennials with months of social distancing? The answer, apparently, is a new wave of conversation-inducing, laugh-out-loud party games. Amid the ruins of down-sized restaurants, shuttered nightclubs and festivals that all but went extinct, \u201cThe Big Night In\u201d has become the new \u201cout out\u201d and with it, the parlour game is enjoying something of a renaissance.<\/p>\n<p>Us millennials have a habit of escaping to the past; we collect vinyl records, knit our sorrows away, snap memories on Polaroid cameras and, faced with months of social distancing, play the sort of games our teenage selves would have cringed at. When the world falls apart, there is something reassuring about returning to a simpler time. Party games are to the pandemic what paint-by-numbers is to anxiety or boxsets are to breakups; they are a comforting lifebuoy in a time of crisis. And if we ever needed a distraction from the headlines or an occasion to laugh, 2020 was it.<\/p>\n<p>Fool The Game, a new card game by Sydney-based party enthusiasts Louis Nuccitelli and Athena Katsogiannis, is designed to be exactly that. It\u2019s a simple format with a large laugh factor; each round, the active player selects a \u201cscenario\u201d and a \u201clocation\u201d card and tries to act and describe the pair to the guessing audience. The game\u2019s strength is in the absurdity of the card combinations; it\u2019s impossible not to laugh watching your friends trying to act out \u201casking for a divorce\u201d \u201cin a mosh pit\u201d.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CKibJmdBMC1\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"13\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CKibJmdBMC1\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by Fool The Game (@foolthegame)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><br \/>\nFool was born from its creators\u2019 own desires to find a moment of joy in the lockdown bubble. \u201cWe were deep in the fiery pit of 2020 and so badly wanted to laugh,\u201d says Athena. \u201cEvery part of our lives felt fragile including our enjoyment. We wanted to create something to help people enjoy the now, even just for 30 minutes. It&#8217;s just nice to have a reason to laugh.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Party games are tricky business. Done well and they\u2019re the highlight of any gathering, but getting them right is a fine art \u2014 one that Fool has mastered through its unpretentious format. \u201cA key ingredient of Fool is its simplicity,\u201d says Louis. \u201cYou don\u2019t need any prior knowledge and you don\u2019t need to bring anything. We were conscious when creating the game that we wanted anyone to be able to walk into the room, pick up two cards and jump in with no context. \u201c\u2018Getting attacked by birds\u2019 \u2018In sinking sand\u2019, sure!\u201d he says.<\/p>\n<p>When tragedy hits, you can\u2019t obsess over every detail without going mad. You have to give yourself room to breathe, to find a bit of light relief. \u201cThe ultimate purpose of the game is to forget about your reality and indulge in some foolish behaviour,\u201d says Louis. \u201cLoosen up a little, let your hair down and enjoy the moment.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI think that was the biggest hurdle last year \u2014 the inability to enjoy the now. We were so consumed with what was happening at a macro level that we forgot to enjoy the micro,\u201d adds Athena.<\/p>\n<p>We all need those breaks of thought, especially when it feels as if almost every conversation we had last year veered towards talk of the coronavirus, racial injustice or climate change.<\/p>\n<p>Amid 2020\u2019s procession of tragic headlines, the dinner table became an increasingly turbulent place. Meaningful conversation too often gave way to tense arguments and flying tempers, or polite small talk in fear of spiralling into disagreement.<\/p>\n<h2>The art of good conversation<\/h2>\n<p>ReFlex, a card game by author, podcaster, influencer and all-round media personality Lillian Ahenkan \u2014 known as Flex Mami to her legions of online followers \u2014 is designed to bring back the art of good conversation. Through a series of questions such as \u201cWould you rather be hated for who you are, or loved for who you aren\u2019t?\u201d and \u201cIs your political correctness more motivated by judgement or empathy?\u201d, the game gets you in the groove of deep, satisfying conversation, asking players to cease fire on their emotional reflexes and engage with tough but important topics.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI\u2019ve always been the person to ask very specific, bizarre hypothetical questions with friends,\u201d says Flex, who began playing what would become ReFlex via Instagram\u2019s question function and soon found her followers were requesting more of her probing questions.<\/p>\n<p>Each deck of ReFlex comes with 46 cards on a range of topics, including dating, love, society, life and politics. There\u2019s a second edition, several extension packs and, most recently, a collaboration with chocolate brand Hey Tiger.<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" style=\"background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CJGTESXDaWd\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"13\">\n<div style=\"padding: 16px;\">\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 19% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"padding-top: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;\">View this post on Instagram<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"padding: 12.5% 0;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: row; margin-bottom: 14px; align-items: center;\">\n<div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(0px) translateY(7px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; height: 12.5px; transform: rotate(-45deg) translateX(3px) translateY(1px); width: 12.5px; flex-grow: 0; margin-right: 14px; margin-left: 2px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; height: 12.5px; width: 12.5px; transform: translateX(9px) translateY(-18px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: 8px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 20px; width: 20px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 2px solid transparent; border-left: 6px solid #f4f4f4; border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"margin-left: auto;\">\n<div style=\"width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\">\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\"><a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CJGTESXDaWd\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A post shared by ReFlex The Game (@reflexthegame)<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>Flex has a running list of questions that she stores in her phone for future editions. \u201cEvery time I ask someone a good, bizarre or interesting question that elicits an insightful answer, I jot it down,\u201d say says. \u201cI like to mull over them for a couple of months and ask myself \u2018would I want to answer this?\u2019 and \u2018would my answer tell me something important about myself?\u2019. If yes, then it makes the cut.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Startling as they may seem at first, the questions compel players to see themselves from a higher vantage, demanding a sort of self-awareness and introspection that is often missed on first dates, at dinner party tables or sprawled across the floor of a house party (ReFlex is nothing if not versatile). Discussing our beliefs, deepest desires, nuances and quirks often feels off limits, but it\u2019s precisely the sort of \u201cgroup therapy meets debating society\u201d discussion Flex has been having on Instagram for years.<\/p>\n<p>ReFlex is designed for \u201cpeople who want to have deeper and more meaningful conversations, but don\u2019t know where to start or don\u2019t have the confidence to ask the right questions\u201d, says Flex. That\u2019s the crux of the game \u2014 the right questions, the sort that elevate the conversation and really get the juices flowing.<\/p>\n<p>So many of the best conversations involve seeing an issue from wider perspectives and that\u2019s the beauty of playing ReFlex; it invites you to coat the big topics in layers of new perspective and emotion.<\/p>\n<p>At its best, ReFlex transforms our ability to converse by asking players to participate in a shared process of digging down inside themselves. \u201cAt the very least, I want [players] to develop a better understanding of who they are, what they think and why they think that way,\u201d says Flex. \u201cThe game is for introspection first, connection second.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>In a world that can sometimes feel too serious, games are, as Flex says, \u201ca small and effective start\u201d to boosting our enjoyment. Given the state of the world around us, it\u2019s never been more important to prioritise pleasure, or as Athena puts it, \u201cto find ways to enjoy time with the people that surround you\u201d. Be it through laughter or conversation, we could all use a bit of offline, in-person connection. Now doesn\u2019t that feel old-school?<\/p>\n<p><em>Charlie Hale is an English-born journalist based in Sydney, where she writes about a plethora of things women care about \u2014 from pasta to politics and everything between. Charlie is also the deputy editor of <\/em>WILD<em>, <\/em>WellBeing<em> and <\/em>EatWell<em> magazines.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>2020 was the year we scrambled to find new ways of working and connecting. 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