{"id":479,"date":"2019-09-06T05:00:03","date_gmt":"2019-09-06T05:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.wellbeing.com.au\/curious\/?p=479"},"modified":"2019-09-06T05:02:11","modified_gmt":"2019-09-06T05:02:11","slug":"polish-that-ego-tame-ego-connection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wellbeing.com.au\/curious\/polish-that-ego-tame-ego-connection","title":{"rendered":"Polish that ego"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

The ego is often a hot topic for discussion that \u2014both rightfully and wrongfully \u2014 cops quite a beating. Many people consider it the root of all suffering that should be abolished, yet this isn\u2019t necessarily the case. Many great yogis clarify an imperative correction: ego does not create insufferable disconnection; rather, this is caused by an over-identification with ego<\/a>. It\u2019s when you promote the ego to master in command, or desperately bypass vital stages of spiritual evolution seeking its elimination, that you topple over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEgo\u201d is a Latin word meaning \u201cI\u201d and its Sanskrit term ahamkara<\/em> translates to \u201cI-maker\u201d \u2014 yet this projected self-perception doesn\u2019t actually make us who we are. The ego may convince you that you should be more like others or others more like you when, ultimately, everyone is connected by the same universal essence lying beneath the labels we become conditioned to over-associate with.That divine essence of love and compassion is true self; ego is \u201csmall-self\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This realisation, that we are not our bodies, thoughts, feelings, possessions, culture, religion or any ego-fabricated illusion of separation, is incredibly valuable. It could pacify internal and global wars prevalent in modern times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ego-self<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Despite widespread scrutiny throughout the ages, there remains no conclusive definition of the ego. It\u2019s true that the ego cannot be measured, seen, touched, studied beneath a microscope \u2014 but it\u2019s difficult to deny its presence when in full swing. Amid speculation, Eastern and Western philosophies agree that ego is merely one part of a complex mind, a character we play, and does not define our true nature.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cNeuroscience posits the ego as a function that is genetically hardwired into our brain\u2019s nervous system; that is, designed \u2014along with the five senses and other neurological functions \u2014 to create a sense of \u2018self\u2019 and separation,\u201d explains Dr Richard Miller, a clinical psychologist and creator of iRest Yoga Nidra. \u201cYogic philosophy views ego-function from the same perspective: as the brain\u2019s creation of a separate entity among other separate entities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEgo is simply a projection, likened to waves upon the ocean. It has no existence separate from its underlying essence and so,ultimately, no reality of its own. Therefore, separation exists only as a mental fabrication.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud attempted to define ego in the early 1900s with his psychoanalytic theory of personality development, which dissected the mind into three parts: \u201cid\u201d (most basic,immediate fulfilment of needs), \u201cego\u201d and \u201csuperego\u201d (moral standards influenced by parents and teachers). He believed a newborn\u2019s personality is entirely id until ego develops around the age of three. Once superego kicks in at around five, ego acts largely as an imperative spokesperson for solving internal conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIn Western psychology, the ego is thought to function in an executive role to maintain psychic balance of the individual,\u201dexplains clinical psychologist and iRest teacher Dr Lauren Tober. \u201cFrom a Freudian point of view, the ego mediates between the primitive and instinctive part of the personality (id) and the external \u2018real\u2019 world (superego). Its job is to make everything personal \u2014 and it does that beautifully! It also has important functions like helping us to navigate the world and remember to feed and care for ourselves.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ego was analysed well before Freudian times; one of the earliest sources being the Upanishads<\/em>,written around 500 BCE. The Upanishads <\/em>and other ancient yogic scriptures view the ego, or ahamkara, as one of four functions of the mind, alongside manas <\/em>(sensory processing, everyday \u201clower\u201d mind), citta<\/em> (storage of impressions, unconscious mind) and buddhi<\/em> (silent mental witness).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Dr Ananda Balayogi Bhavanani, chairman of Pondicherry\u2019s International Centre for Yoga Education and Research,\u201cThe ahamkara is part of our inner nonphysical cognitive processes and is a ladder that enables us to consciously climb by choice along [life\u2019s] path. It is an essential tool that makes us \u2018do\u2019 what we \u2018need\u2019 in lower states of evolution. The danger is when the line of \u2018need\u2019 and \u2018greed\u2019 gets blurred.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What shapes the ego?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We all have an ego; some of us have an underactive one, some grandiose. Ego imbalances often trigger, among other symptoms, a greedy sense of ownership and entitlement, a \u201cneed\u201d for external validation and gratification. Social worker and founder of Body Love Yoga, Sarah Ball, says over-identifying with the small-self increases susceptibility to the kleshas<\/em>, or obstacles such as ignorance,attachment, aversion and fear of death. So, what factors contribute to ego imbalance?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cGenetics play a role in how self-perception emerges but environment and social experiences are invariably the largest influences,\u201dBall says. \u201cStigma, poverty, shame or discrimination can play a huge role in our egoic structure. Unsettling experiences in early life and development into adulthood can really impact the way our ego expresses itself; our stable sense of a reliable self-identity.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From a yogic perspective, Dr Bhavanani believese go is primarily influenced by unconscious habitual patterns (samskara<\/em>) and inherent tendencies (vasana<\/em>) that are carried across lifetimes. These are largely related to the kleshas, which he describes as inborn psychological afflictions, and action-reaction bondages (karma-bandha<\/em>). \u201cThe biggest influence of all, however, is how we relate to our own selves,\u201d he stresses. \u201cWhen we are at ease with our self, the ego is subdued. If not, it becomes malignant.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A tight correlation undoubtedly exists between ego and self-esteem, and yoga provides therapeutic tools to enhance self-worth.Still, Ball warns, the mainstream portrayal of yoga \u201cperfection\u201d may have adverse effects if it sends messages that you don\u2019t fit the \u201cideal\u201d mould \u2014 or most fashionable tights on the rack!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe modern yoga culture of bendy social media pictures, commercial \u2018yogic\u2019 detoxes and impressive yoga gear seems an extension of confusion about what brings true relief,\u201d she says. \u201cIf [the yoga]community stems from motives based on ego validation, the essence of yoga may get lost and absorbed into the larger web of consumerist ego-striving emptiness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAlthough, many feel it doesn\u2019t matter what brings someone to yoga, because experience of union on an internal level is what will sustain the practice long term. Yoga is an exploratory science based on rigorous investigation of what leads to inner freedom; being too prescriptive about the \u2018right way\u2019 to practice can be an extension of ego itself.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Patiently polish, not abolish<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Is ego really the cause of suffering and in need of abolition? Quite likely not. As Steven Hinchliffe, founder of Wollongong\u2019s Vinyasa Yoga Studio, explains, ego is not the enemy. \u201cAhamkara is required by the body to function in the phenomenal world. The association of \u2018me\u2019 with the ego, body, mind and personality is the issue. As the saying goes, \u2018Ego makes a wonderful servant, but a terrible master.\u2019 Once we dissolve attachment to the ahamkara and clearly see it as a character we\u2019re playing, it allows the self to experience diversity of life within oneness of consciousness.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Ancient yogic text Bhagavad Gita<\/em> speaks not of destroying ego, but reconnecting with an eternal consciousness clouded by it. You may therefore find peace not by eliminating ego itself, necessarily, but by workshopping your relationship with it. Patanjali\u2019s Yoga Sutras<\/em> relates yoga as silencing the mind\u2019s fluctuations largely relating to the ego\u2019s sense of separation. Through the practice of concentration (dharana<\/em>), you can witness the ego-mind in action; that persistent chatter that rates experiences and performance as \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hinchliffe elaborates. \u201cThe ego becomes afraid of its dissolution and tries to keep pulling us back into the sense of identification with it, particularly once serious self-enquiry is commenced.Acute awareness of arising thoughts is our only necessary tool. Any thought based on past or future should be ignored \u2026 At a certain point, the ego realises it will not be destroyed, but merely \u2018polished\u2019; it then no longer fights the process of self-enquiry, and becomes an ally.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is possible to momentarily silence ego through deep meditative states \u2014 but total elimination is unlikely. Some highly enlightened beings may supposedly approach \u201cegolessness\u201d; however, Ball warns that an attempt to fast-track self-inquiry may catapult spiritual emergence into emergency. \u201cStephen Cope addresses this beautifully in Yoga and the Quest for the True Self<\/em>,\u201d says Ball. \u201c[He states] we must establish a stable sense of egoic structure before we can safely unpack and unwind ourselves from this identity and move freely into the larger self that yoga practices enable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cLeaping straight to the \u2018light\u2019 without integrating our shadows\u2019 complexities [means] we have no stable ground to observe and integrate expansion of the larger self. Our quick-fix culture offering transformational promises makes us more susceptible to this\u2018spiritual-bypass\u2019; this destabilises ego function and leaves us feeling disorientated and distressed.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, then, the goal of yoga is not to eliminate a fundamental aspect of the mind but to slowly soften, perhaps fleetingly still,the ego\u2019s waves, allowing surface ripples to settle so you may recognise the true essence of what lies beneath \u2014 within yourself and others. Don\u2019t chase your tail trying to fight, change or rid yourself of ego. Doing so, according to Dr Miller, is an expression of ego itself. Instead, grow familiar with the ego, befriend it \u2014 and follow that awareness fondly toward freedom of true self-realisation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Voicing a healthy ego<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Dr Lauren Tober and Sarah Ball offer these simple tips to reverse unhealthy communication patterns that may reinforce the ego\u2019s false sense of identity: <\/p>\n\n\n\n