SEX AND LAUGHTER
According to Laughter Therapist and Trainer Helene Grover who runs Laughter and Humour workshops: “Laughter reduces the level of stress hormones such as cortisone and adrenaline and triggers the release of endorphins – the body’s natural feel good chemicals. A good belly-laugh relieves physical tension and stress, leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after.
She further states that “Laughter and humour are also useful in generating closer connection with a partner, sharing a bit of humour, some fun and a together burst of laughter stimulates closeness.
Having sex also releases endorphins, so both laughter and sex are a perfect combination, we could call it having a “double endorphin cocktail”.
Shared laughter is one of the most effective tools for keeping relationships fresh and exciting. All emotional sharing builds strong and lasting relationship bonds, but sharing laughter and play also adds joy, vitality, and resilience. Humour is a powerful and effective way to heal resentments, disagreements, and hurts. Laughter unites people during difficult times.
In my practice I often see couples who tell me that they have lost the excitement they experienced in the early years and sex is not much fun anymore. Unfortunately there is a belief that sex is a serious business and therefore it often becomes a chore.
Incorporating more humour and play into our daily interactions can improve the quality of our relationships and allows us to be more spontaneous. Why not surprise your partner with crazy Fancy Dress outfits and act out a little fantasy sex. Plastic sheets and baby oil are a sexy but funny combination – slipping and sliding and feeling the pleasure of each others bodies.
If you liked the fridge scene in the movie 9 1/2 weeks try some chocolate sauce, whipped cream or whatever turns you on or makes you laugh! It is an old movie but worthwhile to get out again from the video shop.
There are all sorts of condoms, coloured ones, ribbed ones, ticklers etc. It might be fun to visit a sex shop, they are not all sleazy, if you have never been before, and there are some “friendly” ones around like the Maxxx Black shop inNewtown. You will be surprised what fun stuff you can find.
Having sex should be fun, to share a laugh and be playful together. It can certainly lead to sex and a heightened sense of pleasure. Laughter uses some of the same pathways in the brain that are used by orgasms. So it’s a great way to get your mind open and ready to maximise the pleasure.
I believe that couples who have a positive and relaxed attitude to sex will significantly increase their chances to achieve an orgasm and they will have a stronger, happier and emotionally satisfying relationship.
If you and your partner are used to laugh and have fun outside the bedroom you can make this part of your sexual relationship in the bedroom.
Laughter is also a great way to bond with a new partner. A bit of nervous laughter can help you both becoming a little less anxious about what might (or might not) be happening.