Keep calm and make conversation: The introvert’s guide to Christmas party chit-chat


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What’s the best thing about Christmas? The food? The presents? A week off work?

And the worst thing?

Well, for the introverts among us, it might well be the glut of social events — BBQs, dinner parties, work functions, school concerts and drinks nights … phew! Such occasions where you’re required to frock/suit up, eat, drink and make merry with a bunch of different people can trigger anxiety and worry for many.

Hey, you might even be the life of the party!

Even if you thrive in a small group setting, the thought of being in a room full of people you don’t know well (or at all!) can feel daunting. Worse still, it’s likely you’ll have to have to make conversation with them!

Rather than hibernate well into the New Year, arm yourself with some simple strategies for soulfully joining, participating in and leaving party conversations. Hey, you might even be the life of the party!

How to break into a conversation group:

You know the deal. You’re standing on the edge of a cluster of party-goers and you’d like to join in. But how? One easy way is to make friendly eye contact with a member of the group and make a brief introduction. Something like, “Hi, I’m Bronni. I don’t want to interrupt but this sounds like a fun conversation!” Hopefully, that will spark engagement and grant you a place in the group.

Soulful conversation starters:

Ok, you’re “in”! Now what? If you find yourself stuck for words, try a few of these juicy festive conversation starters to get the ball rolling:

How to gracefully leave a conversation.

By now, you may well feel completely talked out! Moving on from a conversation, either to grab a drink, find someone else to chat with or head Home, can be tricky, too. Keep your exit strategy simple — wait for a natural break in the conversation and politely state your reason for leaving. You could try: “It’s been lovely chatting with you. I’ve just spotted Dan and I was really hoping to chat to him tonight. Catch up with you later.”

Best of luck with your social gatherings, friends.

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Bronni Page is nuts about about health, wellness and living a vibrant, lit-up life. She’s quite the "word nerd" and uses this superpower as a writer and blogger, crafting engaging articles to inspire everyday people be their healthiest, most awesome selves. She’s also a qualified yoga instructor, specialising in restorative yoga (the super-relaxing, snoozy, cruisy style). Bronni has led classes in Australia and Canada, and is currently creating a meditation album. When she’s not mucking around with yoga props, writing or embarrassing her three kids with hilarious mum jokes, you’ll find Bronni searching out the best cappuccino in her hometown of Newcastle, Australia.